tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2044339197163784788.post4553744269668091734..comments2023-10-11T21:57:23.614+01:00Comments on What a Pain in the Bum !: Rough Justice In This Cruel Cruel World....!Carolehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11470170206537639792noreply@blogger.comBlogger40125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2044339197163784788.post-18582599754286858442012-03-16T14:16:32.483+00:002012-03-16T14:16:32.483+00:00Hi James. Was finally well enough so I went to se...Hi James. Was finally well enough so I went to see your mum yesterday. Can't say I was particularly looking forward to it - found myself dawdling along The Pavement rather than walking with any kind of purpose! - to be honest, part of me was dreading what I might find, but I was worrying for nothing. <br /><br />Obviously, she's worn out and has very little strength left, but she seemed so very calm and peaceful. I stayed with her for about three quarters of an hour - mostly we just sat in silence, or held hands. (although I will confess to having subjected her to a bit of a kiss fest when I was leaving, but that was just to pay her back for the "Oh my God!" when I walked in!!)<br /><br />Trinity is an absolutely wonderful place and absolutely right for your mum now. She clearly feels able to rest and be peaceful there, and it must be a huge relief to all of you to be able to go and see her in such lovely surroundings and not a General Medical NHS Ward!<br /><br />Hoping that I can get back up again early next week, but in the meantime I'll be thinking of all of you, and especially your mum.<br /><br />Love, Louise xxxxxxxxxCandidehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06188362435668971626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2044339197163784788.post-40890336811318347902012-03-14T23:47:32.392+00:002012-03-14T23:47:32.392+00:00Dear James, still thinking of you all especially y...Dear James, still thinking of you all especially your lovely mum Carole. I am hoping she is comfortable and relaxed so she can sleep and rest and know that you are all there right beside her.<br />You are truely an amazing family and your mum has helped so many people, she is a shining light to anyone out here who is feeling lost and alone.<br />Gentle hugs to you all<br />Much love sally xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2044339197163784788.post-47831781045937358462012-03-14T18:21:20.114+00:002012-03-14T18:21:20.114+00:00Dear James,
Even though it is very hard for you t...Dear James,<br /><br />Even though it is very hard for you to post here, you are a very brave person just like your lovely mother. Your mother is a wonderful lady.! She is the first one who wrote to my thread about my mother. She was so caring, so nice.. I have been thinking about Carole every day and praying that she will have a peaceful journey. It breaks my heart to say goodbye to her so soon but life is so cruel as you said. Please tell her that my mother is doing better now. And I thank her so Much for the support she gave me. Please give my love to her. My heart goes out to you and to your family. I am sending sun shine to Carole and your family from Istanbul, Turkey. May God be with you all.! Soley xxxxsoleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17053427264678822755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2044339197163784788.post-86125936608454550472012-03-13T10:15:04.219+00:002012-03-13T10:15:04.219+00:00Dearest James, Dj, Rab and family, I have just com...Dearest James, Dj, Rab and family, I have just come across Caroles blog this very evening. What a bastard this disease is. So heartening to read and see how many wonderful people admire Carole and her beautiful family. Indeed dear Carole, just rest now lovely lady. God knows you have worked hard enough for it.<br />With all my love and thoughts from Australia<br />RoseRose ~ from Ozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01908281749611280188noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2044339197163784788.post-35214035362260902812012-03-12T16:19:05.709+00:002012-03-12T16:19:05.709+00:00Dear Carole
I have been reading your blog for over...Dear Carole<br />I have been reading your blog for over a year. Thank you for your amazing love, spirit and strength. Your sharing of your journey is such a support to so many.<br />Sending much love and biggest hugs from California to you and your wonderful husband and sons.<br />Joannewildarabellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00924105959366319185noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2044339197163784788.post-59102423112396173192012-03-12T16:16:27.270+00:002012-03-12T16:16:27.270+00:00Thinking of you daily.Thinking of you daily.Fionahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04875135033312240905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2044339197163784788.post-85115982340677486742012-03-12T13:32:04.444+00:002012-03-12T13:32:04.444+00:00You are so brave. I am sure your mum must be very ...You are so brave. I am sure your mum must be very proud of you all.... Our thoughts and prayers are with you all in this final part of your journey....xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2044339197163784788.post-64140216910092207962012-03-11T22:38:21.341+00:002012-03-11T22:38:21.341+00:00thinking of Carole,safe journey,thank you for all ...thinking of Carole,safe journey,thank you for all your wise words of comfort xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2044339197163784788.post-70462524915199131532012-03-11T18:38:08.286+00:002012-03-11T18:38:08.286+00:00Thank you so much James for updating your mums blo...Thank you so much James for updating your mums blog, you are doing a grand job, you have been so strong and such a big support for your mum and DJ also Rab and we know that she is so proud to have two wonderful sons in Djamel and you and loves you so much as we do also.<br />We would also like to thank all of Carole`s friends that she has made through her blog, i know that your support and love and encouragement through this horrid journey has been a big comfort to her.<br />Carole has put up such a strong fight against this bastard cancer, but unfortunately you cant win all the fights, and she doesnt have any fight left in her.<br />You have dont enough my darling you just need to rest now,love you so much darling , Mum and Dad xxxxxxxxxxxbushdot44noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2044339197163784788.post-38303438028742970672012-03-11T17:49:20.793+00:002012-03-11T17:49:20.793+00:00I have stayed in touch with your mom for a long ti...I have stayed in touch with your mom for a long time. I too have battled cancer. I live in the USA and have followed her blog for quite some time. I wish peace for you and Carole.<br />Aaronnursehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09782127273353011704noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2044339197163784788.post-22349158994615623372012-03-11T06:53:24.200+00:002012-03-11T06:53:24.200+00:00Carole,
Hey there, kindred rectal cancer warrior. ...Carole,<br />Hey there, kindred rectal cancer warrior. I am so sorry that battle has taken this turn, but take solace in knowing that you're in a peaceful, comfortable environment. I'm hoping you get all of the quality time you can with your loved ones. Cancer may take your body, but it can't take your spirit, and I feel fortunate to have had the chance to come across yours. The spirit you've shown while battling cancer has been inspirational. <br /><br />Thank you for all your supportive comments on my blog when I was going through my own treatment. They always brightened my day a bit. You and your family are in my thoughts.<br /><br />(Doug - Portland, Oregon)Doughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14004748610568911430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2044339197163784788.post-15521850992619397752012-03-11T01:54:51.571+00:002012-03-11T01:54:51.571+00:00I am from "cancer caught me" blog and fr...I am from "cancer caught me" blog and from colonclub.com. Please let your rmom know that I have read her blog from the beginning and so so appreciate her sharing her story it has been so helpful even though sad at times, especially now. And thank her for the kind comments she has left on my blog making me feel better and cared for and understood. I will keep her and her family in my thoughts. I wish her nothing but peace.Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09054575139455992304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2044339197163784788.post-58156471773394337592012-03-10T23:26:00.160+00:002012-03-10T23:26:00.160+00:00Thank you James...I will be in prayer for your mom...Thank you James...I will be in prayer for your mom and your family...I appreciate you continuing to share your mom's life during this time...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2044339197163784788.post-43431734121133119212012-03-10T22:43:52.870+00:002012-03-10T22:43:52.870+00:00Hi James, I have come across this blog tonight and...Hi James, I have come across this blog tonight and just want to say thank you to you and your mum for sharing in this inspirational blog. Your strength is amazing. Love and thoughts are with you and the rest of your family at this time xx <br />Sue- SomersetSue Davieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16399273303734605054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2044339197163784788.post-8680166596452294712012-03-10T22:03:46.794+00:002012-03-10T22:03:46.794+00:00I only found this blog after visiting the cancer r...I only found this blog after visiting the cancer research site after my Husband was diagnosed with rectal cancer. I'm so very sorry to hear the news about Carol. I've found her blog inspirational and the information I've discovered from it has helped me on my own journey as care-giver whilst my poor soul mate battles on. <br />I lost my own Dad to cancer and experienced the feelings of relief mixed with sorrow as he went in, unwillingly to a hospice.<br />May the times ahead be gentle on you all.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2044339197163784788.post-59600809794928523322012-03-10T16:42:28.642+00:002012-03-10T16:42:28.642+00:00James your mum is an amazing woman.she helped my t...James your mum is an amazing woman.she helped my through my own battle with cancer and I'll never forget that and will always be grateful to her.my thought are with you all.much love Donna and family xxxxxxxxDonnanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2044339197163784788.post-51526075066825392602012-03-10T11:03:32.908+00:002012-03-10T11:03:32.908+00:00James, as you know your mum is a true inspiration....James, as you know your mum is a true inspiration. I have been reading her path and found her blog via a dear mutual friend. I wish you, your Mum, and family good thoughts, bright days and restful times. I hope the hospice continues to be a source of comfort for her now. Love from my husband and I. (Wendy - Australia)Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01808077047116071824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2044339197163784788.post-63661978148261259252012-03-09T20:54:03.627+00:002012-03-09T20:54:03.627+00:00Thank you so much for updating the blog James, I a...Thank you so much for updating the blog James, I am sending so many thoughts and wishes to you all, Carole is one of the most inspirational women I have ever known, words don't seem enough right now but I hope you all can take comfort in everyones wishes, her love amazing love for you all will keep you going in the darkest times xxxSarahmumof3https://www.blogger.com/profile/03928332640674423684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2044339197163784788.post-51111600643456161002012-03-09T19:24:33.012+00:002012-03-09T19:24:33.012+00:00James, your mum has always impressed me with her s...James, your mum has always impressed me with her strength and her determination and the fight she has put up to get this far is incredible. She once said to me that she hated talking about putting up a fight as if losing it, meant she hadn't tried hard enough or had just given up. Carole - Nobody could accuse you of that. Some things just cannot be overcome no matter how much you try. Know that you and Rab and the boys and the rest of the family are in our thoughts <br />Tracy xxxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2044339197163784788.post-36755675801548257582012-03-09T19:05:11.983+00:002012-03-09T19:05:11.983+00:00Hi James - I came upon your mum's blog only a...Hi James - I came upon your mum's blog only a couple of weeks ago through an old school friend of mine who also has advanced bowel cancer. I sent her a couple of messages telling her how amazing I found her and she answered me with such honesty and wisdom.<br />I had cancer myself some years ago and found if terrifying; I never reached the point of acceptance that, from reading, her blogs it was clear she had reached. That kind of acceptance requires great courage and maturity - which your mum so obviously has.<br />Please tell her that from all the messages on here she has so clearly helped many people, which is a great achievement. Let her carry that with her to wherever she goes next.MarilynShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03745235489322234198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2044339197163784788.post-40410770166880050382012-03-09T16:57:20.224+00:002012-03-09T16:57:20.224+00:00Hi James Your Mum must be very proud of you and DJ...Hi James Your Mum must be very proud of you and DJ you sound like wonderful sons and Rab a wonderful husband and father , I know how much you all mean to Carole. Please pass on my love and prayers to Carole. You are all always in my thoughts and I pray for a peaceful final journey for Carole and strength for you all at this awful time. All my love Stef ( mum123)stefnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2044339197163784788.post-18385588185315191212012-03-09T14:40:23.387+00:002012-03-09T14:40:23.387+00:00Dear Carole,
I started reading your blog a year ag...Dear Carole,<br />I started reading your blog a year ago, and it never stopped to amaze me how corageous and graceful you have been throughout this b@stard disease... You have fought so hard, and it's so unfair for it to go this way. I know you'll continue to be just as amazing through the rest of your journey.Rest assured that you have been an inspiration to so many people.<br /><br />And to your family, I send them all the strength and peace I can.<br /><br />AndreaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2044339197163784788.post-22349812307843277172012-03-09T12:01:37.092+00:002012-03-09T12:01:37.092+00:00Dear Carol, Rab, James, DJ and all your wonderful ...Dear Carol, Rab, James, DJ and all your wonderful family.<br /><br />My thoughts love and best wishes are with you at this time. Carol you have been, and will forever continue to be, a real shining star. Your family are a real credit to you and the love and support that shines around you have been a joy to behold. I thank you from the bottom of my heart for the words of support you once gave me and say goodbye with all my love.<br /><br />For your family when the time comes they will miss you and think of you every day but in all of the difficult and sad time ahead, they will be sustained by the courage you have shown, and that you have made a part of all of them xSuenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2044339197163784788.post-35720372554859458822012-03-09T11:26:29.901+00:002012-03-09T11:26:29.901+00:00James,
Its so good to hear from you. You've in...James,<br />Its so good to hear from you. You've inherited your mum's talent for writing, and I know all Carole's blog followers will be grateful for you taking the time to post an update. You've written beautifully and honestly.<br /><br />I keep thinking back to that day in January when we all met up. It felt so right us all being there, and I felt like I already knew you all - probably thanks to your mum bringing you all to 'life' with her writing over the last couple of years. You are all exactly as I'd imagined - a kind, loving, strong family. <br /><br />When I came away that day, I felt so glad that your mum was surrounded by so much love. <br /><br />I only wish that I could have met your mum under different circumstances. Her friendship over such a short period of time has meant so much to me. She knows this, but I'd like you to tell her again...and again :-)<br /><br />James, I know that you must be so proud of your mum - and I know she's incredibly proud of you. <br /><br />Please send my love to all. And tell Dj that Tom is thinking of him.<br /><br />Stay strong,<br /><br />much love, Lisa xxxxshentshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00320300863521778944noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2044339197163784788.post-88739792964005141982012-03-08T23:04:48.049+00:002012-03-08T23:04:48.049+00:00Dear Carole,
Karen contacted me yesterday and ga...Dear Carole, <br /><br />Karen contacted me yesterday and gave me a link to your blog. And I've been reading it ever since. I don't know what to say and if I don't send this quickly it will go the same way as my emails-saved as draft and never sent lest I say the wrong thing. I'm very sorry that I didn't get to know you better and when I think about the times we met it seems like only yesterday. We are thinking of you all-Thomas and Kirstin still fondly remember Dj-they also play minecraft, especially Thomas. You always said what an incredibly good son James is and this really shines through his words. I hear so many people moaning about their sons but you truly have two of the best ever. You are right to be proud of them-if only everyone could bring their children up equally well what a great country this would be! And it certainly sounds like you also have a wonderful husband. You are an amazing woman and whilst I don't 'do' praying as such, I am willing you a drop of extra stength with every keystroke-I'm rambling now so I hope that's a good deal of extra strength that gets through......with lots of love and wishes, Rina, Thomas and Kirstin XXXAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com